He's Just Not That Into You! Really! I'm Serious!

Hope you're having an amazing summer. I sure am.

Last weekend, I celebrated my 35th birthday, my six-month anniversary (hey, that's a long time for me!), and also welcomed my little sister to the West Coast.

The sister stuff is the real interesting part. Now why would a cute, smart, 31-year-old woman leave her comfortable job and sell her pricey studio apartment in New York?

A man, of course. A man that she met online in December. They've been flying back and forth for all of 2007, and she finally moved into his San Francisco apartment on Saturday.

She's never been happier.

Moral of the story: Keep taking chances. Keep following your dreams. Keep a positive attitude, even in the face of failure. As a guy who's failed far more times than he's succeeded, I can personally attest to the power of perseverance.

Enjoy this month's newsletter.

Your friend,

Evan

In this issue:

Charlene is a 41-year-old divorced single mother who was seeing a guy who stated up front that he didn't want a serious relationship. But when the guy started pulling away, Charlene started calling and texting and showing up at his place. He cut her off.

She concludes her letter:

All I ask for is a little honesty, if he doesn't want to see me anymore for whatever reason, just be a man and end it with a little dignity. Is that too much to ask? It's not like we had only gone out a couple times, we spent a fair amount of time with each other and I thought that if anything else, he would always be a friend. But now I feel like I have to try to avoid him, I told my friend that if he shows up at the bar when we're there I will leave, she says I need to just hold my head up and pretend I'm not hurt if I do see him. I guess I just want a little insight into the mind of a 38 year old man that behaves like a high school kid. It is really frustrating, a setback to the confidence and self esteem that I did have before I met him, which wasn't much to begin with. I see now that he was only using me for sex, that he either met someone else or is just done with me. I would be curious to know how many other women my age have been in situations like this. It makes me want to just give up on men altogether.

Charlene

Here's what I replied to her. It is not for the faint of heart.

Dear Charlene,

Don't give up on men. But please, for your own sake, read this very closely. Maybe print it up and put it on your bathroom mirror, where you can practice smiling in spite of what you're about to hear.

Ready?

Click here to keep reading Charlene's verbal smackdown. With love, of course.

CBS and Yahoo vie for my affections

Wednesday, July 18th was a banner day.

First, I was featured on the CBS Early Show with my client, Tom Pandolfo. Despite being 5'3", Tom is getting a dozen emails a week on Match.com, thanks, in part, to our work together. But really, he's a very charming and attractive guy, which certainly makes my job a whole lot easier. I'm thrilled that he's having success and was willing to share it with the world.

Click here to see how Tom became a man that women could look up to:
(article on the left; video on the right)

Then, I wrote this article for Yahoo! whose concept was liberally borrowed from Esquire's 10 Things You Don't Know About Women. It's not relationship advice. It's light comedy, built heavily on cliches and stereotypes. But the since the piece was put in the Dating Advice section, and then, on the Yahoo! Homepage, I think people took it seriously.

Turns out, there were over 1500 comments in less than an hour. The server crashed. Only 50 comments remain. Yes, my silly Top 12 list was one of the most popular features ever on Yahoo! And, for the life of me, I can't figure out why.

Click here to read what all the hoopla is about.

Gabrielle Kushner was my client a few years ago. Now she's getting married in a month. And because she sent a picture, she's being featured in this newsletter.

Congratulations, Gabby!

Hi Evan!

I haven't e-mailed in a while and just wanted to let you know that on September 6, Craig and I will be married! It was two years ago that we met on JDate and it was my profile that caught his eye (and also the photo of me feeding a giraffe!). I will send you the wedding photos!

Thanks Evan for helping me write a fantastic profile!


Here we are in Mystic, Connecticut last weekend

Love,

Gabby and Craig
"EarthdayBirthday" and "CraigToGo"

Want to find your soulmate, like Gabby did? You know where you can find me.