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Online Dating Tip O' The Morning
Inertia: The Most Common Cause of Perpetual Singledom
As the year winds down, and we reflect on what's most important to us, one question repeatedly surfaces (at least in these quarters):
Are you content with your love life?
If you are not, take heart. You are not alone. Millions of people just like you are waiting for the perfect time and circumstance to take life-changing action, whether it's dieting, quitting smoking, or finding a new job. You know how that story goes. Next thing you know, three years have gone by, and you're in the exact same place you were before.
Now, there's nothing inherently wrong with being in that place. It makes sense to wait until after the holidays before you sign up at the gym. You may not want to quit smoking while studying for the bar. And who can blame you for delaying a career switch when your bonus is due in another four months?
These are all valid reasons, yet valid reasons are what allow us to be stopped in life. Think about it. There's always a reason why you shouldn't do something - which inevitably overshadows the reason why you should do something. And why should you do something? Because you're not happy with the status quo! What other reason do you need?
Alas, nothing changes unless we change it. Weight doesn't drop off, cigarettes don't decide not to enter our mouths, new employers don't come knocking on our doors. So we stay in our safe, semi-content place, lamenting our unachieved goals, although we've actively done very little to achieve them.
You can see how inertia is the most common cause of perpetual singledom, right? The inconvenience of acting, apparently, is more problematic than the loneliness of not acting. But how can this be, if we are to believe what people say about love?
If you've ever asked someone about the most important thing in her life is, you'll generally hear something like "love", "family" or "relationships". Yet how much effort do we make to pursue our partnership goals compared to the effort we make to pursue our career goals? When we're unemployed, we do everything in our power to find a job. Yet when we're single, we hope that serendipity takes over. "It'll happen when it happens," is a common refrain. "Love occurs when you're not looking for it," goes another. Well, I don't believe it.
I believe that to achieve true happiness, our thoughts and actions have to be aligned. So if the thought is "love is really important", it's probably wise to live your life that way.
Time waits for no one, so stop messing around. Revamp your profile, get new photos, or hey, even call a dating coach. The reward is much, much greater than the cost.
With love,
Evan
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