Evan

In this issue:

Why Don't Men Like Smart, Strong, Successful Women? – It's not BECAUSE they're smart, strong and successful. It's because those qualities often come with other traits that are a big turn-off to men. Most readers seem to agree...

I've Been Hurt By A LOT of Men. Should I Give Them Another Chance? – A brave, young woman shares a personal story and wonders if she can ever trust again. You may be surprised at what I tell her.

If You Are Short, Fat, Older Or An Asian man, You Must Read This. But Especially If You're Short. – A 5'3" dating coaching client of mine performs a science experiment and the results are mind-boggling. So are the reactions from readers.

Open Your Mind, Open Your Heart, Open To Love

I was at the first annual Matchmaker's Conference for a three day weekend. I was there to speak on a panel for dating coaches, discussing how we can help matchmakers and their clients succeed. The room was filled with nearly 100 people in the love industry, all of whom care deeply about connecting others.

Single people come to these big-hearted folks, serious about finding a relationship, and they open up their wallets wide. Matchmakers typically charge anywhere from three thousand to ten thousand dollars to make ten "matches" over the course of a year. And even though no matchmakers promise to deliver a spouse, the pressure is on them to deliver.

Which brings up an issue that I call "the Matchmaker's Dilemma".

Click here to read about what that means and how it can change your life.

Two private clients share how a little private coaching opened up a world of possibilities in their love lives...

Dear Evan,

I absorbed every word you said on our last session. Now equipped with some decent photos, thanks to you, I decided to give it a test drive, on Yahoo Personals.

Well, thanks to your pro advice, I was OVERWHELMED with responses. In addition to all the emails/ responses, etc. I have 6 dates set for this week (I would have had more, but I am traveling this weekend). And, these gals are all in my target range –now, 40-46, all great looking and within a short distance from me.

Thanks for your help.


Best,

Mark

Hey Evan,

Just wanted to tell you that I went to dinner with one of the Match guys last night. The reason I feel I need to share this with you is because it was really the first time ever I felt truly confident and relaxed meeting someone for the first time. This I attribute to you. In the past I had always stressed over what I was going to wear, what to say (or what not to), how to act/react, and if there would be a second date. Last night I followed your simple but sound advice to just be myself and be in the moment. Okay, I still had to worry about what to wear because there is nothing about that in your blogs ;-) but my evening turned out to be an enjoyable one because I wasn't trying to follow all of the so-called dating rules.

So I would like to say thank you, I appreciate all of your patience with me. I realize I have much more to learn, but I also know I have come so far from where I was before.

Have a fantastic weekend, talk to you Tuesday.

All my best,

Lisa

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