I signed up for Match.com in July 2004 after attending the wedding of a friend's son who met his bride on match.com. I figured if it worked for him, it would work for me. I wrote my own (read that: boring!) profile and selected my photos and went on a few "coffee dates", but wasn't attracting or meeting the type of person I wanted for a life long partner. I contacted e-Cyrano in September and after working with you on my profile, my photo selection, my ID and headline, I posted our results in October. My headline read "Two fish swam into a concrete wall. One fish looked at the other and said, "Dam!" I JUST LOVE that as a headline and literally EVERYONE that contacted me after I posted it commented on it!
The headline made a difference in the number of "hits" I received, but it was my profile with pictures that complemented it that resulted in contacts with more? "appropriate" men. Cleve "winked" at me on November 7 and knew immediately I was the one for him. It took me another week to realize I'd found my match. We moved in together in April and became officially engaged on the following Valentine's Day.
Cleve says that 2 things about my profile kept him coming back to my page and eventually made him "wink" at me. First, we mentioned that "I make the best tomato gravy this side of Tuscaloosa..." and he was thrilled that I mentioned the South (he's a Georgia boy) and seemed domesticated! Second, was a photo of me standing in the woods looking at a pine tree. He is a big outdoorsman? and was intrigued with that photo.
Honestly, every one should use e-Cyrano. I'd be pleased to highlight your services in any way I can!!!
I've online dated off and on for about 10 years and had four significant relationships as a result. The online process used to leave me frustrated with the types of men I attracted I'd get discouraged and stop after a short time. I used to think it was the choice of website that was the magic factor, but now I know my success in online dating is all about how I control the process.
So, this time, when re-joining Match, I decided to change how I online date by following Evan's advice in Finding the One Online. Hiring an e-Cyrano writer to develop my profile was a big part of making a difference in my online dating.
Working with Kim at e-Cyrano was amazing. It was such an easy and enjoyable process! She made me feel like I was talking with a friend and her questions were both thought-provoking and fun. I felt very supported by her in doing something that was a rather personal -- talking with a stranger about my hopes and dreams for the future.
I'm more than completely satisfied with the profile Kim created for me. She honestly captured the essence of who I am and the type of person I want to be in a relationship with in a better way than I ever would or could have. There is something about having a professional writer who is in your corner taking a look at your strengths and interests that is far superior to writing this info yourself.
I've now been online for two months and am happily dating three guys, and have several more that I'm corresponding with. This is unprecedented in my experience as a 52 year old woman. I used to struggle to find one or two men to connect with that would move from emails to dates.
Almost every man who has contacted me has commented on how unique and enjoyable my profile is. The most frequent remark is that they have never read another profile like mine and it caused them to want to contact me and connect. They can "see" themselves as the man I'm looking for and Kim provided enough examples in the essays to give them something to write about. Often, the cue is her inclusion of my favorite flavor of ice cream. It gives them an easy conversational starter, and I never would have thought about including something like that!
Working with the e-Cyrano team was a pleasure. Adam asked great questions in a curious and fun way to uncover my key attributes, values, and interests. I appreciated his supportive and kind demeanor during our talk which put me at ease to say what I was really looking for in a life partner, and what I wanted to come across about myself in my new profile. When I received the new profile, my response was "That's really me!" Thanks, e-Cyrano!
Thank you! Really! thank you.
Ken and I met originally on JDate in February '04. We went out a few times and nothing much came of it. We had a good time when we were out and then he would drop me off at my door. I was 38 and "didn't have time" to chase after anyone.
I contacted e-Cyrano to revise my essay that summer. Following your rewrite, I had tons of "hits", more than ever. One day I received an email from Ken (on Match) that read, simply, "Great essay". I filed it and moved on. About a month later I passed him on the street and we exchanged quick hellos. The next morning, I wrote him back on Match.
Six weeks after we started dating, he proposed. We were married six months later! Now I have the MOST amazing husband and two adorable stepsons... all before I turned 40! I couldn't have done it without you.
Within days of my new profile going on Match, I went from one or two "winks" to trading emails with two men - and one of them was the love of my life!
When I met Jason, he couldn't stop talking about my profile. I felt a little guilty about having to tell him that I didn't write it... then I realized that they were all my words. You had put together the profile that I couldn't because you had listened to me and had confidence in me.
Thank you, e-Cyrano, for bringing out the real me!
Evan helped me learn the ABCs of dating, since I married very young the first time - and never really dated anybody else. When I say the ABCs, I really mean it - for example, I was so naive that I thought "GamePlayer" would be a good user name when I registered for the on-line dating services, since I like to play sports. Evan politely told me that this was a terrible name and suggested "LiveLaughLove" as an alternative. After e-Cyrano wrote an amazing profile for me and helped me get some decent pictures made, there was an immediate and HUGE difference in the positive responses I received to my e-mails - and he also "coached" me on how to write those as well. If it hadn't been for him, I'm sure my current wife wouldn't have responded to my e-mail/profile! It was less than a month after Evan finished helping me that I met my current wife - and we have now been very happily married for more than 3 years!
It works! I've met a great guy already.....after about 6 dates... I'm in Colorado skiing this week and my new "friend' is making reservations to great events for us! I owe you a debt of gratitude as I had an incredible time on Match.com after you wrote up my profile. I remember you didn't know what you would write since I described myself all about wanting adventure but it worked! I recommended you to my boyfriend's daughter, Holly, and you worked with her. She is getting married this October, too!
I couldn't have done it without you. And the really weird part is that I'm a professional writer, but "couldn't get out of my own way" to look within and scoop out that perfect profile. Getting the profile boost was just the thing I needed from you and your team. It captured the imagination of my wife-to-be. And here we are, now married for two years (and here's a picture of us on honeymoon in Australia.)
My new profile has finally been posted and the flood gates have opened! I'm getting a lot of response to my new profile and picture. However, what's so exciting is the match quality of the responses. I'm getting email from men who know that Turrandot=Nessun Dorma, paella=sangria, and have been to see Wicked! The responses have also been age appropriate, no more responses from senior citizens! Thanks for the online dating profile makeover; what a success!
Before working Kim at e-Cyrano I had okay results with my profile on Match. After she spent some time reviewing, editing and discussing my profile, I was eagerly looking forward to the difference in response this would bring in my online dating endeavours. She was very empathic, listened well and really captured in words more of what I was trying to express and as a result my response rate of women either writing me back or contacting me themselves has increased by over 50%!
I have recommended your service, and Kim in particular, to a variety of my single friends, both male and female and I'm sure they would be pleased with the result as well. Again, money, time and effort more than well spent.
I can't begin to tell you how much this whole experience has changed my online dating experience. And really my whole outlook on dating. While I am still the same person who tried it a couple of years ago - I look pretty much the same and I act pretty much the same - somehow the package that you have put together is much more appealing and got me more hits, more dates and much more fun. For years after posting my e-Cyrano profile, I recevived a lot of comments telling me that my profile is great.
I also feel that my better outlook on the experience has made the guys better looking. I'm no longer looking at them with my depressed glasses on. I'm looking at them in brighter light and with less critical eyes.
All I can say is thank you, thank you, thank you for showing me another way to approach this crazy dating scene. I met my fiance on JDate, and yes, you made all the difference with my online dating experience. You were right about everything.
With love and appreciation,
In late 2009, I decided it was time to put myself back into the dating scene and was going to do it right this time - by having a professionally written profile. It was easy to work with the consultant. I filled out the questionnaire online, then had a 15-20 minute call to fill in the gaps. It was an easy conversation and did not feel like I was being interviewed. I loved my completed profile. It definitely captured my personality! I think the profile showed my adventurous side which is sometimes hard to convey because I can come across as conservative when you first meet me.
After only 1 month on Match.com, Nick emailed me letting me know he loved my profile and would like to get to know me better. After 6 months of dating, Nick proposed. We got married in September 2010 on a beach in Mexico, just the two of us.
It has been a whirlwind romance and we could not be happier - all of our friends can't believe how quickly this all happened, but can see how madly in love we are with each other. I had always hoped I would meet someone like Nick, and I definitely believe my profile is what made him reach out and contact me. After a while all the profiles start to sound the same, but e-Cyrano made me stand out and helped me meet the man of my dreams!
I was so glad that e-Cyrano helped me with my profile; I definitely had more success with dating online with your help with the profile and professional pictures and coaching! I think that your profile captured me and help me stand out from the pack so to speak. Sometimes I had more men than I could juggle! Little did I know that on January 1, 2006 I would meet my future husband. He is a wonderful loving, caring man who accepts me for who I am (quirks and all) and I consider him my best friend and my cheerleader He always has my back!! We got married in March of 2009 and I am now a stepmother to his 9-year-old son who I have become very close with.
Thanks for providing such a valuable service!
e-Cyrano really works! Craig proposed to me and I said yes!!! He proposed at the zoo in front of the lions yesterday (profile name "EarthdayBirthday", line in profile - "Sweet lioness seeking lion-hearted man!") Even today, he says that my profile really caught his attention and I was exactly the type of person he was looking for (he loves animals and actually knew when Earthday was!) He is such a sweet, creative, funny, caring guy (he was even a boy scout!). After our third date we both took our profiles off the sites! It took two different internet dating services to put together two people who have lived their whole lives in the same neighborhood - amazing.
Thank you for your help and patience! Without a great profile, Craig probably would not have e-mailed me so thank you for your help.
Hollie was my writer and I just wanted to let you know that she did an amazing job. She has a wonderful gift of pulling out the things about me that are unique and putting them on the page in a creative and memorable way. I've never had a great gift for writing, but Hollie is truly blessed. Thanks for providing such a great service - which ended up attracting my husband shortly thereafter! Thank you, e-Cyrano!
I have the love of my life, my kids, meaningful work, and I'm healthy.
Thanks, e-Cyrano! Life is much better when you live it with love. And, thanks to you, my life is the best it's ever been. I have the love of my life, my kids, meaningful work, and I'm healthy.
Thinking you'll just stumble across the right person is really crazy when you think about it. What else in life that's worth having comes from happenstance? Knowing how to present yourself and who you really are is very important, and that's where you were so very helpful to me.
Linda J, Tampa
Before I contacted e-Cyrano I was attracting men that I had very little in common with and becoming very frustrated with online dating. Getting my profile professionally written was my last effort before giving up.
I was so nervous about working with e-Cyrano. I worried that I would not appear interesting enough and that even a professional writer would have a difficult time seeing the true me in such a short time frame. Yet it was so easy working with your writer. She gave me great examples of little things that paint a good picture of me. She was great at drawing me out.
When I got my profile, I loved it. It described me perfectly. There was no way I would have ever been able to describe myself or what I was looking for without e-Cyrano. My friends agree that it described me to a T.
After posting my new profile online I started to get attention of men that I was more attracted to. It also got the attention of someone that I had been interested in but was hesitant in contacting. It was as if the profile was written directly to him. Carlos and I have been engaged for a little over a year. Thank you for helping me find the love of my life!
Last December I finally realized I was doing something not quite right in the whole dating process. I wasn't meeting guys that I clicked with, and the ones I felt the click with were not getting it on their side. It was frustrating and lonely and I got to the point where I was telling myself that I was done with the whole idea of dating after 40. Clearly there was no one out there who was interested in a 40 something woman with three kids who was a self-professed pop culture geek. I don't fit the conventional picture of what most men my age are looking for. I was very definitely never going to be the "it girl" on any dating service. I gave myself one more month and one more expense and then I was going to call it quits. Things were getting dire.
I went for the new profile, and I was really pleased with how it came out. I thought it made me sound how I truly saw myself and I was hopeful that it would be the thing that finally set me on the path to meeting The One. Along with my new profile, I was reading your column obsessively, taking your advice to heart and trying to think about how to respond to emails, how to act on any dates I might actually get, how to keep all your words of dating wisdom in my head and not make some silly mistake that would cost me that great guy who fit into my criteria.
Except I couldn't stop coming back to his profile over and over again. Something there was just so compelling. I smiled every time I read it. So finally I decided "How bad could it be? One wink, one email, one drink and we either hit it off or we don't. Try something new, Laura. The old way is sure not working for you."
We were married on February 14, 2009 and every day I wake up happier than the day before. I am so in love, I can hardly believe it! I know for sure that I wouldn't have had a chance with him if my profile hadn't been the real me and I have your service to thank for that.
I sing the praises of e-Cyrano to anyone who will ask! Keep up the awesome work! And thank you again for helping me find the Love of my Life.
You nailed it!! It is amazing the attention I get now, with this perfect profile. e-Cyrano helped me re-enter the dating scene in remarkable fashion. Even at 50lbs overweight, I immediately had 3 on-line dates and all 3 asked for second dates. I had never had that happen before. One of the 3 turned into a 3-year relationship. Unfortunately that ended last March, when I relocated to Dallas for work. After settling in, I got back on line and had a flurry of activity from some high quality men. Count me as a believer in the power of a well-written profile!
Thanks so much for your e-Cyrano service! It was so hard to sit and write about myself. It's difficult not to be modest. Something everyone tells me to be. So with your profile written in a manner that expressed who I am and what I do, it gave me a lot more confidence. Although I have not met my match yet, I still feel that my profile will be able to attract the "right" person at the "right" time! Thanks, e-Cyrano!
This June, we got married, and have been delighting in each other's company ever since.
I felt so much confidence after working with you that I immediately emailed a woman whom I'd thought was beyond my reach before. She and I emailed each other several times in the next few weeks, and later on we met and fell in love. This June, we got married, and have been delighting in each other's company ever since. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Your very satisfied customer,
Jon T, Portland
I liked my completed profile a lot - catchy, easy to read, and somewhat poetic. Eva made me realize I was more adventurous than I thought, which was something I had never played up in my profile before. I definitely received a few comments on how well my profile was written and how I must have spent a lot of time on it. I met a really great guy about 3 months after posting my new profile. We are exclusively dating and he is great!
I am planning my Oct 8, 2011 wedding and owe it to you!!! He actually GETS ME and I mean the REAL me, not the one I felt compelled to create when I started on-line dating before I worked with you. You convinced me that a bait and switch tactic and trying to be perfect when no one really is anyway, was toxic and that I had a lot to offer a man, I just needed to enjoy myself and the rest would happen. You opened my eyes to the fact that I am a wonderful woman, worth the work, and a catch in all areas of my life. I can tell you with no doubt, Dan, my fiance, agrees.
I cried when I read your essays the first time, I was so overwhelmed with happiness. I've already got two great guys who have made dates with me and given me their phone numbers. By dangling "string theory" in my essay, that is the carrot that caught the scientist I was eyeing. WOW, thank you!